Self-Love Is The Best Love

A “Donkey of the Day” video from The Breakfast Club morning radio show

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” — Buddha

So I was out in the world living my best life a few weeks ago when I had received a Youtube notification regarding a “Breakfast Club: Donkey of the Day.” Okay, I know you’re wondering, “What the hell is a Donkey of the Day?” so let me explain…The Breakfast Club is a morning radio show based in New York on Power 105.1. Each day, the radio personality, Charlamagne the God, chooses a Donkey of the Day. This person has most likely done something very ignorant such as using their platform in a dishonorable way, making a silly mistake, caused unnecessary drama or controversy, etc.

Now that you know what the Donkey of the Day is, let’s get back to the story. So, as I’m living my best life, I decide to pause and check out the video especially since the headline reads “Social Media Influencer gets procedures done to look like the perfect selfie filter.” As I watch the video and hear the information provided from the news clips, I realize how much impact social media has on the world today. I mean, of course I know it’s a big deal, but I didn’t really realize the psychological effects it has on our people, especially our children. I do understand that there are many people making a living from social media like the young man mentioned in the above video, but when it comes to the point where you are willing to do anything and everything, even harming yourself for a check, I think it’s time to sit down and reflect on yourself and get to know the real you!

It is so hurtful to see that so many people look to social media for validation of who they are. The only validation you need is your own, and you will be fine whether people like you or not. People are now going to extreme measures to try to impress a bunch of people that they don’t even know personally! We don’t need likes and followers to know that we are worthy! What ever happened to “Just Be Yourself”? I guess that’s a far fetched concept in today’s world where everyone aims to be like the next person, always comparing your life to someone else’s when it is best to just run your own race, walk your own path, enjoy your own journey. You don’t have to be a follower, especially when the blind is leading the blind. Everything you desire can and will be accomplished if you just remain true to yourself and put forth the action to obtaining it. There are so many people that look good on the outside, but are drastically torn on the inside. Why do you think there are people who have so much wealth and access to any resource and anything they may desire, but still commit suicide?


Imagine if you treated yourself like you were someone else. Let’s say you treat yourself like you are your best friend, or your lover, or someone you admire. Imagine how that would feel, being treated royally every day; appreciating yourself every day. You would be good to yourself, you would nurture your mind, body, and soul, and you wouldn’t purposely do anything to hurt yourself.


Psychotherapist Joyce Marter states that at times we all beat ourselves up with cruel self-talk, set ourselves up for failure with unrealistic expectations, deprive ourselves of things we deserve through self-sabotaging behaviors, and abuse our bodies through neglect or harmful choices. Studies show that these behaviors wreak havoc on our mental and physical health, our relationships, and our careers, so we must choose a different path. Once we learn to fully love and accept ourselves, we can overcome many of the inner issues that we have and also we can walk into any place or space as the super confident beings we are! If you don’t believe in yourself and if you don’t love yourself, who will? I am a living testimony to this subject. My life changed dramatically when I had taken the time to do inner work and get to know myself. Are you loving yourself the way you should? Or are you loving others more than you love yourself?

“Self-love is a journey. It takes dedication, devotion, and practice. Resolve to love yourself each and every day and watch your best self blossom and your greatest life unfold! Self-love is an exponential force.” -Joyce Marter, Psychotherapist & Founder of Urban Balance


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